Thursday, June 26, 2008

Avoid The "Scaries" Part Two

Everyone who is active or just a weekly visitor the Social Network Scene should fully be aware how to spot a “Scary” and how to handle yourself NOT deal with them. You see, there is no “dealing” with them as they are generally not rational thinkers who exist in the same plane of life rules and morals as most people do.

Of course, the very best, hands down way to avoid the scaries is make your profile private and only invite and except friends that you already know well. They can still ask to become your friend, and judging a book by its cover is never the way to go. If you are going to go private, only accept your friends.

Another way to avoid the scaries is to first go and take a look at their profiles, look at their top friends, read their about me section. If you have any doubt, trust yourself and don’t add them.

If you are a female and a guy is looking to “get to know you better” check out the top friends list. Is it all girls? Are they half dressed? Ummmmm… there’s a clue. Same, only reversed if you are a guy. Although, some guys dig that (double standard you know :)

If you receive an unwanted message, do NOT send one back explaining that you no longer want messages :) If, indeed, they are creepy, you will not get the support you need from the sites administrator because you also contacted them.

What these scaries sometime do, is blast out the same exact messages to numerous people who “fit their Profile”. Then they wait to see who answers them. They then weed through the replys to find the reply they are looking for. I personally have not crawled into the mind of the scaries to exactly what they are looking for, so I cannot help here. I can express my certainty though that if you do not answer, you are far more likely NOT to answer what they are looking for :)

Don’t let it get to you, and don’t do anything stupid if people spread rumors about you. Too many senseless suicides from teenagers to adults. Focus not on what was done to you, focus on anything else. Visit other social networks for a while, stay away and try not to even think on it. Sometimes a very difficult proposition at best, if you cannot get it all out of your thoughts, stay off the computer for a while. Get out, do something fun.

If the problem lies with “so-called” friends that attend your school, work, or interact with you daily, then you may need to approach this a bit differently. First, you will need to talk to family, teachers, principle, good neighbor, or other “real” friends about this, instead of “hiding” it all and attempting to deal with this all yourself, talk to a guidance counselor, security guard, or other named individual above.

Always remain better than them by not stooping to the muckraking levels. Trying to be evil and nasty when your nature is the opposite will be just like leaving your home town to walk around the streets of a crazy, dangerous city. You don’t know how to navigate it, you won’t know which way to turn, but these scaries are quite practiced in their nasty ways and know exactly which way to turn, what vehicle to use, and where the authorities hang out. A fish out of water is where you would be. AND… what will the people you tell about this situation think when you are doing the exact same thing to those scaries in retaliation as they did to you? Don’t play the game at all. They always make up the rules as they go along anyway, so there is no way to combat it alone.

Here are some sites that will help with Cyber Bullies:

Scruff McGruffs Site:






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